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Oral Sex Part Deuce: Different parts require different arts.

Using your head when giving head:

Let’s talk blow jobs.  This is the mouth on penis action.  If you want to eliminate any possible risk of STDs then use a polyurethane, polyisoprene, or latex condom.  Don’t like the taste of condoms?  Fear not, there are condoms that come in different flavors!

OK, OK… I can actually hear you sighing from here.  I know, using condoms for oral sex isn’t realistic for everyone.  The good news is that if barriers aren’t your thing there are still ways to lower your risk.

Here are a couple tricks of the trade:

  • use the “harmonica method”.  By focusing on the shaft of the penis and not the head you’ll avoid any cum or pre-cum.
  • watch out for deep throating (especially vigorously).  It may irritate the lining of your throat making it easier for those pesky STDs to infect you.
  • if you have the head of the penis in your mouth then try not to take any ejaculate/semen into your mouth.
  • partner not so great about telling you when they’re going to cum?  When you think they’re getting close you can try finishing them off with your hand to avoid the unexpected ejaculation.
  • got ejaculate in your mouth?  spit it out quickly instead of swallowing it and it will help reduce your risk.

The low down on going down:

When you’re performing oral sex on a vagina it’s a similar deal.  Using a barrier like a dental dam (thin sheet made out of latex), condom (cutting it down the side), or saran wrap will do the trick.  Stay away from microwavable saran wrap because it’s more porous (has bigger holes in it) and HIV may be able to get through the holes.  For added pleasure slap some water or silicone based lube on the side of the barrier that will come into contact with the vagina.   If you don’t want to use a barrier then try to minimize how much fluid you swallow.   You should know: there is an increased risk for getting HIV is she is menstruating (having her period) because blood has more virus in it than vaginal secretions (aka the fluid in the vagina).

The art of rimming: 

Ah, yes, the licking of the bum.  HIV is not typically transmitted through pooh, BUT there are other things like hepatitis A (there’s a vaccine you can get to prevent this!), parasites, and other STDs that can be.  You can use a barrier such as a dental dam (thin sheet made out of latex), condom (cutting it down the side), or saran wrap (preferably non microwavable) to protect yourself.  Pleasure tip:  put some water or silicone based lube on the side of the barrier that will be facing the butt.  One thing to know is that if you’re going to be rimming someone who just received anal sex (bottomed) then there’s the possibility of blood being present that can transmit different viruses, including HIV.

When it’s all said and done:

Get checked out.  Most STDs don’t have symptoms so get checked regularly.  Have them look in your mouth and swab your throat as well as your goodies.  I hear this a lot: “So what if I get a little gonorrhea in the throat?  I can clear that up with antibiotics!”  Well, yes, you can BUT some STDs aren’t curable (i.e. herpes) and if you have a STD in your mouth then it’s easier to get HIV from performing oral sex.

If you and your partner are monogamous you can both get checked out.  You can’t get something from someone who doesn’t have it.  And if they do have something that isn’t curable, then you’ll know what you’re looking for!

So there you have it.  Oral sex in a nutshell.  Have questions?  Need more info?  Call the Oregon HIV/STD Hotline 800.777.2437, we’re here to help!  You can also chat with us online at


Kiss Me Where I Pee! Because oral sex is safer sex.

Hold on to your knickers, because today we’re talking about oral sex!   “Oral who?..  Oral what?!”  Oral S-E-X.   

Text Book Definition: oral sex is sexual activity between partners in which someone’s genitals (penis, testicles, vulva, vagina, clitoris, labia) or anus are being stimulated by someone else’s mouth, lips, or tongue.  Examples:  mouth to vagina (aka: eating out, cunnilingus), mouth to penis (aliases: fellatio, blow job), or mouth to anus (affectionately referred to as analingus or rimming).  There’s lots of different slang, but it all means the same thing, mouth on genitals or bum action.

How to protect yo-self when heading south:

Generally speaking oral sex is low risk for HIV, but can be high risk for other sexually transmitted diseases (STDs).   If you get a STD in your mouth then it makes getting other STDs (like HIV) much easier.  Most STDs aren’t going to show symptoms so your partner(s) could have an infection and have no idea.  So let’s talk defense!

Say AH:

Check your mouth.  If you have open cuts or sores in there it’s going to make it a heck of a lot easier to get infected with STDs…including HIV.

Flossing & brushing is normally something I encourage; however, try not to do it a couple hours before or after performing oral sex.  It can cause little cuts/tears in your gums which make it easier for STDs to infect you.  This is also true for sharp foods like chips so put down the bag of Doritos!

Side Note:  If you need to do something to get a particular taste out of your mouth try keeping mints or gum around.  You can also incorporate food into your sex play to get different favors.  More on that here.

Just a little prick:

Vaccinate yourself.  There are vaccines for hepatitis A, hepatitis B, and human papillomavirus (HPV) which can all be transmitted sexually.  If you need help finding a place to get vaccinated call the Oregon HIV/STD Hotline 800.777.2437

Getting hot n’ heavy:

Okay, so you decided you’re going to give the gift of oral sex to your partner, but now what?!  Well, first, it’s a good idea to survey the land.  The general rule of thumb is that if you see any blisters or sores on the goods then watch out… that could be a STD.  If you want to be a little more stealth than switching on the lights and giving them a visual exam try inspecting the area while kissing their stomach, thighs, lower back, etc.  It’s good foreplay and they’ll be none the wiser while you’re having a little looksey around for funky colored discharges, lesions, or bumps.  Can’t see through the forest of pubes?  Maybe you can talk to your partner about trimming or waxing.  Some people bring this into their sex play, but to each their own.

Warning: if someone is about to go down on you and they have blisters or sores on their lips or mouth then be careful because they can easily transmit that infection to your privates.

Check back soon for Part 2 of ABC (A: Analingus, B: Blow jobs, C: Cunnilingus) Risk Reduction Techniques where I talk about saran wrap, spittin’ vs swallowing, and other fun things!

As always, give us a holler if you have questions or wanna chat.   Oregon HIV/STD Hotline 800.777.2437 or chat online at

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